You Are Enough

A few weeks ago, we went to visit a colleague’s (and fellow expat) home. He was living in a high rise, modern condo with a huge balcony and glass walls. He has really nice furniture pieces and a living room that looks like an IKEA showroom. The flat is private, grand, and has a beautiful view of the cityscape. He even owns a bike that costs twice my monthly salary. It’s a comfort I know we won’t be able to afford.

On the bus ride on my way home, I sobbed. I couldn’t control it. I’ve been working in Singapore for four years but I never had that kind of life. In four years, we’ve moved to six different houses sharing space with complete strangers every time because the rent was too expensive. I know that it was a practical decision on our side but I couldn’t help but feel disheartened mostly because of the unfairness of it all. My life suddenly seems so pathetic.

you are enough

Now, I wasn’t proud of this behaviour (I don’t even understand why it suddenly came out as an emotional breakdown), but it’s the truth for many of us. We look around or browse our social media feeds, then wonder why our life doesn’t seem to measure up with others around our circle. When in fact, we’re only seeing a glimpse of a perfect moment in someone’s day.

It is human nature to compare because it puts context to facts and helps us convey things better. The danger is when we use others as a standard for what we think our life should be.

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” {Romans 8:28, NLT}

I seek guidance from the Lord and He reminded me that even though life is not always fair, He is just. God promises that He will work all things together for our good. That means everything in our life as a whole.

You shouldn’t look at one aspect of your life and see it terrible in its entirety. It’s just one piece of the puzzle that God can always turn around and connect to a greater story. He can see the bigger picture. He designed you to fulfill a purpose no one else can. If you compare yourself to others, you will always fall short. You’ll never feel “enough”. And that’s the biggest lie you’ll ever believe because you have everything you need and… You are more than enough. :)

Do you also find yourself going through a FOMO stage on social media? How do you deal with comparison?